Talk about grief is a sensitive topic, and we also know how crucial it is to understand and address this process to heal and move forward in our lives.
In times of loss and bereavement, it is essential to remember that it's okay to feel a wide range of emotions. There is a "manual" to deal with the loss, and there is a defined period of time to overcome the grief. Each one of us has its own rhythm and process. Don't rush or judge yourself for how you feel.
The stages of grief: A difficult road, but fundamental
When we face the loss of a loved one due to cancer, it is completely normal to feel a roller coaster of emotions. The process of grieving is not a linear path; rather, it consists of steps which, although different to each person, they can provide a guide to understanding what we are experiencing. These stages are:
- Disclaimer: In this initial stage, it is possible for us to resist him to accept the reality of the loss. We can feel overwhelmed and frustrated.
Tip: Do not blame yourself for feeling this way. Denial is a natural response to loss. Find someone you trust with whom you can talk to and share your feelings.
- Anger: It is an emotion that is common in the duel. We get angry with the disease, with ourselves and, sometimes, even with the loved one that is gone. It is important to remember that anger is a natural reaction in this process.
Tip: Looking for healthy ways to release that anger. Therapy, exercise or even write a journal are ways to process these intense feelings.
- Negotiation: At this stage, we can find ways of coping with the loss, how to make promises or negotiations with a superior force. It is an attempt to recover what we have lost.
Tip: Recognize that some things are beyond our control. Learn to forgive yourself and accept that you did the best you could.
- Depression: The deep sadness and the feeling of emptiness are the characteristics of this stage. You may feel as if we might never overcome the pain.
Tip: Do not hesitate to seek the help of a mental health professional if you feel your depression is affecting in a significant way.
- Acceptance: The last stage of grief means accepting the reality of the loss and finding an emotional balance. It does not mean that we forget our loved one, but enables us to move forward and find ways to move forward.
Tip: Acceptance is not a linear process; there will be good days and bad days. Be kind to yourself and celebrate the moments in which you feel at peace.
We know that the process of mourning in the context of cancer is complex and unique to each individual. Ok these stages as a natural part of the process can help us to navigate through the pain and find a path to healing. Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Together, as a community, we can support and learn how to live our lives in the best possible way, while we hold in our hearts those whom we have lost in this battle against cancer.
And remember...
Healing a grieving is a process, and although you will never forget your loved one, with time, you'll find ways to live life again, with love and gratitude for the moments shared. Seeking support from friends, family, and professionals as a Group Morivivi when you need it, and remember that, with time, acceptance, and peace may come to your life.
We are here to support you in this journey of acceptance and healing!
In memory of Norma Lopez...
Always in our hearts.
Nathaly Bosch
Social communicator and Collaborator for Group Morivivi.
